Day 129 - How To Handle Mocking
📖Daily Reading
Proverbs 23
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📝 Reflection
Proverbs 23: 17
Don’t envy sinners, but always continue to fear the Lord. You will be rewarded for this; your hope will no be disappointed.
Wow, so interesting as I was reading chapter 23 and seeing how it was a guide on how to handle being mocked, the flip side of what we discussed yesterday. If you are like me, you are guilty of mocking at times and you likewise sometimes on the receiving end of being mocked. Humans have a deep need for belonging, mocking is one of the primary ‘tools’ we use to keep others in line with the group. So it makes sense that when we are being mocked we feel the threat of being kicked out of the ‘club’. That threat is not imaginary, it is very is real.
If you, like me, have been part of a community where not so good or healthy behavior has been normalized and you have even been immersed and totally engaged in that behavior yourself and then you ‘wake’ up and realize you are tired of the consequences that come with that behavior and want to change - mocking often also comes along with the territory. It is hard to ‘swim upstream’, to go against popular opinion, be a ‘lone voice in the wilderness’, hence popular and oft used sayings that reflect this truth.
When you can expect it, or even realize that this is totally normal, then it is not as threatening. The other interesting thing, is that mocking isn’t limited to the people you know and that may even love you, but it will come from within, it will even come from still being surrounded or exposed by the behavior - the behavior, substance or thing will even seemingly be mocking you via temptation, mixed emotions, divided mind that questions and remembers…
This is why many people choose to go back to sleep, it just seems ‘too hard’ and ‘not worth it’ and they let their dreams die and their potential waste away. What is even worse is that maybe it doesn’t die, but you go against your desire to change, then you have in actuality abandoned yourself in order to belong, this haunt you and will poison you from the inside out, along with whatever behavior you stay in or go back to. The mocking will continue but from the inside, it is awful. Been there done that!
So lets take a look at how this chapter gives us a path to success in transformation:
- Declare; Know what you want: focus on the ‘new’ behavior and outcomes you want - vs. 17
- Prepare; Learn, educate yourself, forget what you think you know, learn what it will really take to change and be willing to do it - vs 15-16
- Why; Know why you want this change ‘the why that makes you cry’ - so it turns from a want to a ‘must’, this will help you endure the mocking and stay strong - vs. 23
- Commit yourself to this new decision and life it will bring -vs. 12
- Connect; Seek new community that will support your new outcome, this is essential, especially if you can’t or won’t for whatever reason leave your community or people that are still doing whatever you are trying to stop - vs. 19-20
- Remember; Remind yourself of the truth of your previous behavior and the consequences - ‘play the movie forward’ - vs. 19-35
- Focus forward; Remind yourself of the rewards of staying the course and the new positive outcomes your new lifestyle will bring - vs. 25-26
- Respect Your Brain to avoid complacency; Stay connected for the long term - stay humble - don’t ever believe that ‘you’ve got this’- respect the power of your brain, we can learn and create new habits and neural pathways but the old ones never go away and can be re-engaged so fast it will make your head spin.
All of this is so so important and there is much more, this is just a high level overview. If you are in the throws of wanting something and simultaneously feeling deprived, shunned, mocked, fear of being disconnected you are not alone. Maybe you are lucky and have a lot of support but are still feeling these things. This is totally normal, our own brains will mock us out of fear. Our brains don’t like uncertainty and change, it will resist, when you know this you can prepare and handle it accordingly and do it anyway with more confidence and increase your resolve and ensure your success.
✍🏼Daily Journal Prompt
Have you experienced mocking before? Does your own brain mock you?
📖Tomorrows Reading
Proverbs 24
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