Day 164 - Commitment is a Decision
📖Daily Reading
Isaiah 62-65
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📝 Reflection
Isaiah 62: 5
Your children will commit themselves to you, O Jerusalem, just as young man commits himself to his bride. Then God will rejoice over you as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride.
Commitment is a decision not a feeling. Many of us are only committed if we feel like it. Commitment is a decision that is meant to keep us on course in spite of our feelings. When we are really committed we also willingly and intentionally put people, systems and structures in place that will support our commitment, because we know that there will be times when we won’t feel like it. This is the lesson that people have been learning and re-learning since the dawn of time.
Living a life that is overall healthy, joyous and thriving takes a lot of hard work, intention and commitment. The things that are healthy and good for us overall are not always fun and aren’t things we always feel like doing. God is committed to the human race, but he doesn’t always feel like loving us but he does anyway. That is true love when paired with commitment, it isn’t all happiness, sunshine and roses. Commitment has you moving and eating healthy even when you want to lay around and eat cake, or even on the days when you do do this, you get back to it. Commitment has you staying married even when your ‘other half’ isn't’ being very nice. Commitment helps you being a good parent even when your kids attitude is in the toilet.
Commitment helps us when we don’t have it within us to help ourselves and we don’t feel like it. When we are committed we tell people, we make it publicly known, we sign agreements, we make ourselves accountable with consequences, we give others permission to come along side and lovingly remind us. It is harder if not impossible to be committed and stay decidedly committed in isolation. We also need to be committed to periodically checking in with our commitments, reviewing them, reevaluating them. We change, grow and mature over time. We need to make sure what we are committed to is aligned with our values and is contributing to and getting us the overall quality of life we are after.
If you are struggling in an area and you think you have committed but you haven’t put in the structure and systems to support this it might be a good time to sit down with yourself and examine this. Maybe you are just ‘dating’ a lifestyle. That is ok - there is value in the dating process, this is where we are experimenting, seeing if the character and substance is there for a good lifelong relationship. Is this stable, is this something that is going to help me be a better version of myself, is this life giving, is it sustainable for the long haul etc.. If you know you want to be committed but you haven’t gone public with it and put in your support system, maybe you just need to decide and stop waiting to ‘feel’ like.
Here is a simple and maybe silly example that I tuned into in the last 24 hrs. I walk a lot and I am committed to wearing good quality shoes that support by body as I move. I have had a lot of foot, knee and lower back problems over the years and I had to learn the hard way that not paying attention to this and prioritizing it and committing to this was not helping me. But recently I noticed that I wasn’t getting as much support as I needed. So I examined the situation, evaluated where it was time to get new ones. As I went through this process I realized I had gotten a little lazy and had just been slipping the shoes off and on and hadn’t been tightening up the laces and re-tying them each time I put them on. Hence the shoes were/are fine. I needed to ‘tighten’ up my commitment to using them properly so they could fully support me they way they were designed too. I had a much better supported walk this morning. Sometimes we are committed but we back slide a little and just need to shore things up a bit so we get the support from the design and structure that is already in place. Does this make sense?
Are you relying on your feelings too much? Interestingly enough, when we can stay committed and consistent with the things that bring us health and vitality even when you don’t feel like it, you create the feelings you want like confidence, purpose, fulfillment, love and joy! Again, this is one of those things that doesn’t always make sense and you can’t fully understand it until you do it and live it and then you know!
If you have ‘lost that loving feeling’ (we just watched Top Gun 🤣), are you doing the things that support you feeling loving? Love is an action verb. Are you relying just on feelings to be there to support you or the other way around? Are you telling your spouse you love them, do you have a gratitude practice, are you dating, are you getting together with your friends, keeping in touch, are you doing what you know you can and should be doing to support the structure and the commitments in your life? Take responsibility for your decisions and emotions!
✍🏼Daily Journal Prompt
Are you relying on your feelings too much? If you have ‘lost that loving feeling’ (we just watched Top Gun 🤣), are you doing the things that support you feeling loving? Love is an action verb. Are you relying just on feelings to be there to support you or the other way around? Are you telling your spouse you love them, do you have a gratitude practice, are you dating, are you getting together with your friends, keeping in touch, are you doing what you know you can and should be doing to support the structure and the commitments in your life?
📖Tomorrows Reading
Isaiah 66
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